The etiquette of giving wedding gifts has definitely evolved over time. Dowries, a sum of money usually paid to the bride’s family for the privilege of marriage, go back five or six thousand years. But were doweries truly wedding gifts? Chances are the bride (or groom) never saw any of that money.
In contemporary society, wedding registries are used as a regular practice when a couple prepares to marry. This allows family and friends to easily find and give specific gifts that were selected by the couple. However, even with a registry, it is not uncommon for there to be quite a few “green” gifts given to those being wed. After all, no one will likely be returning a gift of cash any time soon.
But let’s discuss how to navigate wedding gifts when it comes to your own family. Especially when it comes to your precious daughter. Is she about to tie the knot soon? Perhaps you too would like to bless her with a thoughtful gift of cash money or a personal check, but how does one know the right amount to give?
Below you will find a few things to consider when making the decision about monetary wedding gifts for your daughter. We have also provided a couple of tips to help make that presentation of $$$ one she will remember long after the money is spent.
Consider Your Own Financial Capability
Of course, it would be amazing to give your daughter thousands and thousands of dollars as a wedding gift, but not at the risk of making your own financial situation dire. Depending on their relationship with the bride, wedding guests typically give between $50 – $150 when making a monetary gift. As parents of the bride, it’s standard to give significantly more. However, you should first consider what is financially comfortable for your budget.
Consider Your Relationship with Your Daughter
You might want to adjust your wedding gift amount based on the depth and quality of your relationship. It may seem a little strange to think that way, but it is merely a practicality. Most parents want to forever remain close to their daughters. But not every parent/child relationship is the same. Therefore, it makes sense that the closer you are with your daughter, the more apt your relationship will foster generosity.
Consider Your Other Wedding Contributions
In American wedding etiquette, the father of the bride is customarily responsible for the financial portion of the wedding, including the reception. While this marital tradition has been eschewed by some, many parents still contribute to their daughter’s wedding in significant ways. If you have taken on some of those financial responsibilities, they should also be considered when determining an appropriate amount for her wedding gift.
One final note: your money will always make a lasting impression when it is accompanied by a present in honor of her and her special day. The Bradford Exchange offers a wealth of wedding gifts, including fine jewelry you can personalize just for the occasion and heirloom-quality keepsakes that celebrate her day of love and commitment. Cash hidden in a greeting card is great, but when you include a beautiful wedding gift with meaning and thought behind it, she will think of you and her special day every time she sees it.
Thanks for reading! We wish you the best of luck with your daughter’s upcoming nuptials and a happily ever after for her and her soon-to-be spouse. Hopefully, this article helped answer a few of your questions about giving a monetary wedding gift. Remember though, no matter the amount you decide to give as her wedding gift, your daughter will likely be grateful and appreciative of your kindness.